still the "cougar" (which the term just doesnt fit in my case!)

Summer 2008 came and went with out any other dates.  it was fine - between friends, family, teaching summer school & travel i kept quite busy and it didn't really matter to me.  during summer school, i reconnected with an adorable man i'd met the summer before.  it began as friendship but there was definitely chemistry between us.  yes, he was in his 20s - but, hey, i didn't pursue!

we'll call him "teach."  after hanging out a bit together in group get-togethers & met up for a couple of happy hours.  we enjoyed talking & laughing with and at each other.  so teach asks me out to meet some friends - we had both lived in the DC area a short time and were still meeting people.  i saw it as an opportunity to meet his friends & eventually, he mine & didn't think anything of it, romantically.  sure, there was chemistry between us but i wasn't thinking anything of it.  i am a scorpio & there is usually chemistry between me and many people!  well, he took me out for a fantastic evening!  met some of his friends at a night club, went to a hookah bar,drank some mohitos then he took me to the metro station to go home.  and we looked at each other & kissed.  a wonderful, deep, sexy kiss.

we kind of started seeing each other.  nothing too regular or even exclusive; just texting, chatting, emailing, mostly comparing the new school year, laughing & flirting.  it's difficult to see someone new on a regular basis when your a single mom.  i won't bring every man i date to the house & when a date does need to come over for whatever reason i make sure my son sees us as just friends.  i can justify that in that i've always had guy friends and my son has met most of them at one time or another.

i decided to have teach over for dinner (nothing romantic) & to play on the Wii.  he brought over mario cart & he, my son & i had a blast playing it - they kicked my ass!  here's where the memory's a little fuzzy...i don't remember if it was that night after my son had gone to sleep or another night & ian was spending the night out but, yes, we had sex....really good sex...

~now, being that teach was in his 20s at the time i certainly didn't expect a long-term relationship...i knew we were just having fun.  but friend, lover, whatever - you don't stand me up, & that is what happened.  so of course, i started to feel as if these youngins' were only in it to see how many "cougars" they could get in the sack.  i still feel this way & that's why i've been steering clear lately.~

after that night, we chatted a little bit & he asked me to a party on a Saturday to meet some more of his friends.  i was looking forward to it & to hanging out with him again.  he called later that week, said he was sick but felt he'd be able to go to the party.  & i didn't hear from him again.  Saturday came with no call so i called him.  he again said he was sick, didn't know if he was going & he'd get back to me.  i didn't hear from him again.  being the teacher that i am, a few days later i sent him a looong text explaining how if he didn't want to go out with someone he should just tell that person & not lead a person on, etc, etc, etc.  i got a weak apology & didn't hear from him again...for a very long time (which i'll discuss in a later blog :).

so another one bites the dust...i was beginning to get a real complex!