literally, since i did move back to Texas! prior to departing for TX, Teach looked me up again. we hadn't spoken in 8 or 9 months so i was quite a bitch at first. then he explained the reason for the absence - nothing good, many family difficulties over those months - and i agreed to see him before i left. he was very upset i was leaving & tried to convince me to stay, though ;-p. we do, of course, keep in touch. hell, i keep in touch with all my boys from the last year!
well, the summer was extremely busy with the move and trying to find a job and all. i didn't have time to date johnny depp if he'd asked! and i really didn't care either. my main concern was finding a job, finding a house to rent & getting my son & i settled before the school year began. of course, i wasn't opposed to dating either....
once i realized i'd be staying in the houston area, i then realized it was time for some fun! one of my g-friends & I went to a really cool sports bar in her neighborhood where we proceeded to get a little drunk. ok, i'm lying...very drunk! that's when i met the Older Dude. my girl, Shine, & i were having a good time laughing & drinking & flirting when he came over. i don't exactly remember what was said, but i do recall making out with him at the bar like a teenager & giving him my number. which i was pleased he decided to use :). oh i was so proud of myself. this guy was definitely older than me! that's a good thing, i thought! i was very excited with the thought of hearing from him & going on a real date!! i am such a silly, gullible girl.
yes! he did call & he suggested we meet at a local bar 1/2 way between us. worked for me...i figured if we hit it off then, we would go on a real date another time. ~ digression: i'm lucky my son is a teen & he is friends with my friend's kids so he can hang out with them when i choose to go out ~ i though that since he was older than the guys i'd been dating that maybe there was a chance at a real relationship. HAHAHA! such a silly girl am i! we meet at the restaurant bar, have a couple of drinks and he proceeds to tell me how he's not looking for a girlfriend, just someone to hang out with, have a good time with & have a lot of sex with. it came out in the convo that sex was the priority for Older Dude (ok, he's only 3-4 yrs older than me but a LOT older than those i'd been dating). he also leered...yuck! all i could think about, after my 3rd glass of wine, was getting out of there & how if i ever started a blog about dating he would definitely make it to the blog as comedy relief!
after my 3rd glass of wine and an appetizer and the lecherous conversation i bid adieu. he insisted on walking me to my car. he insisted on kissing me, which wasn't difficult since i do like to kiss & i was feeling very relaxed. then...the strangest ending to a date i've ever had! Older Dude grabbed my hand, put it on the crotch of his pants over his hard dick & said, something to the effect of, "see what you do to me!" HAHAHAAAHAAAA! I HAD TO FIGHT TO HOLD IN THE LAUGHTER! i mumbled something, jumped in the car & sped off! REALLY!? i knew then i was in for a long, strange dating life in houston, tx!
Friday, April 23, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
food for thought
after jon & i made it permanent (ok, semi-permanent but i didn't know that at the time) he really wanted to buy a house but i felt a house meant too much permanence; of setting roots. that actually made me extremely nervous. sure we were getting married but buying a house *shudder* that was so adult, so permanent, so, well for lack of a better expression, setting down roots.
you may be asking "what the hell is she talking about!?" & "umm, why is she mentioning all of this?" well, i do have a reason for bringing up the ancient past. since my divorce, i have rented. i have moved every 3-4 years. i have no desire to buy a house, condo, townhome, whatever. i like renting & the freedom it gives me. well, i was faced with an issue this week that brought all of this renting forefront in my thoughts and in my decisions for dating. i have to buy a refrigerator. i haven't purchased a major appliance since i was married! i have no idea what brand to buy, how much to spend, etc. every place i've rented has come with a fridge. but this place, though it came with a fridge, also came with a clause in the lease that should anything happen to the fridge ( & washer & dryer), I must replace said appliance.
ok, ok! i'm getting to the point of all of this & how it relates to this whole blog! above i mentioned how the idea of BUYING a house kind of freaked me out because of what it (was suppose to) mean. well thinking of that, because of the whole fridge thing, led me to think about why i like to date younger men. & i do, I REALLY DO like dating much younger men. think about it...they represent a lack of permanence! well, & the guys i've dated are sexy as hell :). & you know what? i'm ok with that. i'm not ready for a relationship. i'm not ready for anything serious or permanent. how crazy is it that i took buying a refrigerator for me to realize why i like dating younger men?!
i'm quite excited because i may get to see chucky cheese very soon :).
you may be asking "what the hell is she talking about!?" & "umm, why is she mentioning all of this?" well, i do have a reason for bringing up the ancient past. since my divorce, i have rented. i have moved every 3-4 years. i have no desire to buy a house, condo, townhome, whatever. i like renting & the freedom it gives me. well, i was faced with an issue this week that brought all of this renting forefront in my thoughts and in my decisions for dating. i have to buy a refrigerator. i haven't purchased a major appliance since i was married! i have no idea what brand to buy, how much to spend, etc. every place i've rented has come with a fridge. but this place, though it came with a fridge, also came with a clause in the lease that should anything happen to the fridge ( & washer & dryer), I must replace said appliance.
ok, ok! i'm getting to the point of all of this & how it relates to this whole blog! above i mentioned how the idea of BUYING a house kind of freaked me out because of what it (was suppose to) mean. well thinking of that, because of the whole fridge thing, led me to think about why i like to date younger men. & i do, I REALLY DO like dating much younger men. think about it...they represent a lack of permanence! well, & the guys i've dated are sexy as hell :). & you know what? i'm ok with that. i'm not ready for a relationship. i'm not ready for anything serious or permanent. how crazy is it that i took buying a refrigerator for me to realize why i like dating younger men?!
i'm quite excited because i may get to see chucky cheese very soon :).
Sunday, April 11, 2010
i really don't need to defend myself but will anyway
now many of you may be shocked at my exploits. & yes, i could possibly be deemed a slut. however! i am a woman in my 40s, which despite the aging crap that comes with being in your 40s, there's also this revolutionary sense of freedom. in other words...i just don't care! if i want to get my sex on then i'll get it on :).
with that said, would i like to find a healthy, satisfying, happy relationship with someone close to my age? of course i would. unfortunately, that's proving very difficult to find. the men i've been with over the past couple of years have been awesome guys. not to mention the self confidence they've given me. and it's very nice when a young, hot guy tells you you're beautiful. lol! i think what i like most about them is there are no expectations - as i said before they've been very open & honest relationships. & i'm still friends with them!
there is only 1 ex-boyfriend/husband i'm still friends with...my first G-man (both long-term boyfriends since my divorce have names that begin with G). all my other boyfriends (mostly short-term) in the 10 yrs since my divorce don't speak to me. i have nothing against any of them...they were in my life for a reason & not continuing any type of relationship with me is their decision. but these dalliances are still in my life & are definitely rooting for me so i am, also, rooting for them!
i've thought about cooling my jets & waiting for someone close to my age to come along but that has proven to be no fun. so i think i may continue my cougar ways for awhile ;).
with that said, would i like to find a healthy, satisfying, happy relationship with someone close to my age? of course i would. unfortunately, that's proving very difficult to find. the men i've been with over the past couple of years have been awesome guys. not to mention the self confidence they've given me. and it's very nice when a young, hot guy tells you you're beautiful. lol! i think what i like most about them is there are no expectations - as i said before they've been very open & honest relationships. & i'm still friends with them!
there is only 1 ex-boyfriend/husband i'm still friends with...my first G-man (both long-term boyfriends since my divorce have names that begin with G). all my other boyfriends (mostly short-term) in the 10 yrs since my divorce don't speak to me. i have nothing against any of them...they were in my life for a reason & not continuing any type of relationship with me is their decision. but these dalliances are still in my life & are definitely rooting for me so i am, also, rooting for them!
i've thought about cooling my jets & waiting for someone close to my age to come along but that has proven to be no fun. so i think i may continue my cougar ways for awhile ;).
a little overlap :).
in between seeing Mr. BHS (dude from last blog) i also started seeing Mr. T. i met Mr. T at my new school. very handsome guy, tall, dark & a smile that could light up a room. there was an instant attraction (which is often dangerous for me :). he noticed me, i noticed him, soon he'd find excuses to come to the 2nd floor and often come to my room. my assistant instantly recognized we were hot for each other. she'd know Mr. T for a long time & was amused by the attraction.
now 2 things set Mr. T apart from my other recent dalliances...1) he's black & 2) he's pretty close to my age being in his late 30s. i kind of hoped this was a guy i could actually date as opposed to just play around with.
we had our first date that winter. a friend/coworker & her husband had just bought a local bar & were having a party there to celebrate & T asked me to go with him. now we were going to be around co-workers so we tried to be not too obvious about being on a date. however, after a couple shots of Patron & then us leaving together, i imagine it was pretty obvious to everyone we were together that night. i didn't mind, though. i really need to not drink Patron on first dates...well, should probably just stay away from it altogether...lol! i'll leave the rest of the night to your imagination.
T & i continued to see each other every now & then & it soon became apparent he only wanted to see me for one reason. being that i was finished with sex for fun & wanted a relationship i finally called it off. we'd only been on one other date after the initial one. i was feeling used &, looking back, was probably using him. he didn't take it too well when i told him i was done; wouldn't even let me explain. in fact, he acted like a dumped teenager! when i saw that side of him i was glad we hadn't connected any deeper!
after a couple of months, he finally came around & we became friends again. prior to leaving the school & No. Va he gave me a going away date to remember ;). we're still friends & keep in touch on that wonderful, social networking site known as Facebook!
now 2 things set Mr. T apart from my other recent dalliances...1) he's black & 2) he's pretty close to my age being in his late 30s. i kind of hoped this was a guy i could actually date as opposed to just play around with.
we had our first date that winter. a friend/coworker & her husband had just bought a local bar & were having a party there to celebrate & T asked me to go with him. now we were going to be around co-workers so we tried to be not too obvious about being on a date. however, after a couple shots of Patron & then us leaving together, i imagine it was pretty obvious to everyone we were together that night. i didn't mind, though. i really need to not drink Patron on first dates...well, should probably just stay away from it altogether...lol! i'll leave the rest of the night to your imagination.
T & i continued to see each other every now & then & it soon became apparent he only wanted to see me for one reason. being that i was finished with sex for fun & wanted a relationship i finally called it off. we'd only been on one other date after the initial one. i was feeling used &, looking back, was probably using him. he didn't take it too well when i told him i was done; wouldn't even let me explain. in fact, he acted like a dumped teenager! when i saw that side of him i was glad we hadn't connected any deeper!
after a couple of months, he finally came around & we became friends again. prior to leaving the school & No. Va he gave me a going away date to remember ;). we're still friends & keep in touch on that wonderful, social networking site known as Facebook!
Friday, April 2, 2010
& so it continues...
school started & i was working with a wonderful, new staff. not that my old teammates were shabby, i was at a new school. for the first time i had an assistant. we got along GREAT! i still miss working with her :(. she knew of all my dating exploits/attempts, etc. so, i was happy to share with her a new development on facebook. now, to be perfectly honest, i was hoping facebook would reconnect me with some of my old crushes, alas, that has yet to happen. on with this particular diversion...
he popped in on me...im'd me from fb. he's from my old neighborhood, so to speak. went to my high school, hung out at the same places i did, made out at & played ball at the same park i did & so on. he was also cute as hell! now, his picture wasn't great as far as determining his age. i figured he was younger but because so many of those places where we hung out are long gone i was hoping he wasn't too much younger. (you getting there yet?). of course i told my g-friend about him & we were all giggly...yes, grown women still get giggly over a guy as stupid as that is! well, i had my class of 2 seniors and we were finished with the lesson and for the most part goofing around so i decided to get on fb to show my bud a pic of him. lo & behold he had "friended" me! (we had chatted many times which were getting very flirtatious but i hadn't friended him yet.) of course, the kids & my friend/assistant said to friend him back so we could see more about him & of course i did. oy vey! turns out HE GRADUATED FROM HS THE YEAR AFTER MY SON WAS BORN!
dammit all! ok so at least he wasn't 20 years younger! as my friends pointed out & encouraged me to meet him! once i discovered his age i asked him if he realized how old i was...his response was it didn't matter to him! so we met :). had a great time right off the bat.
~digression~ i've enjoyed dating these younger men, those in their 20s, because they are honest up front about what they want/expect from you. you also know marriage & baby's isn't a possibility with them so you know neither of you will get heartbroken. i've been fortunate to remain friends with these wonderful men~
i wouldn't call what we did dating per se...but we did have a lot of fun together. we saw each other about once a month for almost a year then it kind of fell off, which was fine. we have gotten together a few times since then...before i left for TX then when he came to visit family in TX over the weekend....good times :).
he popped in on me...im'd me from fb. he's from my old neighborhood, so to speak. went to my high school, hung out at the same places i did, made out at & played ball at the same park i did & so on. he was also cute as hell! now, his picture wasn't great as far as determining his age. i figured he was younger but because so many of those places where we hung out are long gone i was hoping he wasn't too much younger. (you getting there yet?). of course i told my g-friend about him & we were all giggly...yes, grown women still get giggly over a guy as stupid as that is! well, i had my class of 2 seniors and we were finished with the lesson and for the most part goofing around so i decided to get on fb to show my bud a pic of him. lo & behold he had "friended" me! (we had chatted many times which were getting very flirtatious but i hadn't friended him yet.) of course, the kids & my friend/assistant said to friend him back so we could see more about him & of course i did. oy vey! turns out HE GRADUATED FROM HS THE YEAR AFTER MY SON WAS BORN!
dammit all! ok so at least he wasn't 20 years younger! as my friends pointed out & encouraged me to meet him! once i discovered his age i asked him if he realized how old i was...his response was it didn't matter to him! so we met :). had a great time right off the bat.
~digression~ i've enjoyed dating these younger men, those in their 20s, because they are honest up front about what they want/expect from you. you also know marriage & baby's isn't a possibility with them so you know neither of you will get heartbroken. i've been fortunate to remain friends with these wonderful men~
i wouldn't call what we did dating per se...but we did have a lot of fun together. we saw each other about once a month for almost a year then it kind of fell off, which was fine. we have gotten together a few times since then...before i left for TX then when he came to visit family in TX over the weekend....good times :).
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